In the
last 14 years, I have consulted with individuals and couples who have made some
very wise decisions with their money and some who have made some devastating
ones. Many have over $40,000 of credit
card debt, car payments and mortgage debt that steals too much of their income,
making it difficult to afford food.
Because these people are financially broke, money overwhelms them and
comprises a majority of their thoughts.
All of this has caused me to wonder how I can teach my children habits
of financial freedom so that they won’t make the same mistakes, reaping the
same miserable results.
Others
have become very wealthy by the time they are 35 years old and some older. They have earned a large income, saved a
portion of their income and generated a large net worth. Because of this, they spend a large portion
of their time managing their resources and are concerned with the economy and
losing what they’ve accumulated.
As a
result, I’ve been concerned that my children would have financial troubles and
then focus too much on money. I’ve also
been concerned that my children would have too much money and focus too much on
money. How can I be assured that money
does not control them? What lessons do
they need to learn? How can I communicate
these lessons to a 12 and 14 year old so that they will accept them?
Years ago
when I managed money at Merrill Lynch, I asked one of my affluent clients what
the greatest struggles Christian men have.
He said, “Girls, glory and gold.”
Women can tempt men to not follow God’s ways. Glory from people affects our ego’s causing
us to rely on our own abilities instead of God.
“Gold” seduces us to change our focus from God to money. Then I asked, “How I could make sure money
did not have its grip on me?” My client
said, “Give it away and be willing to give God all of it if He asks you to.”
This is a
lesson I can teach my children, the most important money management lesson –
giving. When we give, we release the
hold of money in our lives. When we give,
we honor God. When we give, we become a
blessing. When we give, we serve others
as Christ did. When we give, God blesses
us.
To teach
giving to my children, I give them jobs to do, pay them and give them the
opportunity to give at least 10% of their earnings to the ministry of their
local church, so they can honor God, bless and serve others. Giving is the best way to unleash the power
and hold of money in our lives.